Nov 21st

My mother spent her life passing as white. Discovering her secret changed my view of race — and myself.

By Yasmin S

My mother spent her life passing as white. Discovering her secret changed my view of race — and myself.

Original Post from The Washington Post: Gail Lukasik

a person posing for the camera: The author’s mother, Avera Fredric, who was born into black family in New Orleans but spent her life passing as white

The author’s mother, Avera Fredric, who was born into black family in New Orleans but spent her life passing as white

I’d never seen my mother so afraid.

“Promise me,” she pleaded, “you won’t tell anyone until after I die. How will I hold my head up with my friends?”

For two years, I’d waited for the right moment to confront my mother with the shocking discovery I made in 1995 while scrolling through the 1900 Louisiana census records. In the records, my mother’s father, Azemar Frederic of New Orleans, and his entire family were designated black.

The discovery had left me reeling, confused and in need of answers. My sense of white identity had been shattered.

My mother’s visit to my home in Illinois seemed like the right moment. This was not a conversation I wanted to have on the phone.But my mother’s fearful plea for secrecy only added to my confusion about my racial identity. As did her birth certificate that I obtained from the state of Louisiana, which listed her race as “col” (colored), and a 1940 Louisiana census record, which listed my mother, Alvera Frederic, as Neg/Negro, working in a tea shop in New Orleans. Four years later, she moved north and married my white father.

Reluctantly, I agreed to keep my mother’s secret. For 17 years I told no one, except my husband, my two children and two close friends that my mother was passing as white. It was the longest and most difficult secret I’d ever held.

My mother’s pale, olive skin and European features appeared to belie the government documents defining her as African American, allowing her to escape that public designation for most of her adult life.

A search for answers yields more questions

In the silence of those 17 years, I tried to break through my mother’s wall of silence. But every time I tried, she politely but firmly changed the subject. Her refusal to talk about her mixed race only fueled my curiosity. How had she deceived my racist white father? Why was she so fearful and ashamed of her black heritage?

Using my skills as a seasoned mystery author, I started sifting through the details of her life, looking for clues that would help me understand her. But this real-life mystery only intensified as I tried to sort truth from fiction.

My mother had always told me that she was reluctant to visit her family of origin in New Orleans because she hadn’t been raised by either parent and there were just too many sad memories. Now I wondered if she was really just afraid that if we visited we’d meet family members who were not passably white? On several occasions her mother and her sister visited us in Ohio. But they appeared white and no one hinted otherwise. Did her brother never visit us because he didn’t appear white?

I wondered now why she’d never been able to show me photographs of my grandfather growing up. Was it because he was visibly black? And could my mother’s avoidance of the sun be attributed to her fear that her skin would darken too much? Then there was her obsession with makeup, even wearing makeup to bed.

Piecing her life together, I marveled at how she endured the racism of living in the predominantly white suburb of Parma, Ohio, with a racist husband. My father’s racism was a reflection of his upbringing in a close-knit Cleveland ethnic neighborhood. Though he never used the N-word, he was still vocal about his bigotry, referring to African Americans using other racial slurs, deriding blacks for what he perceived as their lack of ambition and criminality. Unknowingly deriding his wife, my mother.

My mother reprimanded him with little vigor. Was she afraid of bringing too much attention to the race issue? Did his racist remarks beat on her like a hard, cold rain? Or had she convinced herself that she deserved it for the lie that sat at the heart of their marriage?

In escaping the Jim Crow south, coming north and marrying my white father, she must have thought gaining white privilege was worth the price of losing family ties and her authentic self. The irony was that in gaining white privilege, in passing for white, the onslaught of racism was splayed open to her. Its ugly face could now be shared with her, a “white” woman who would understand and possibly agree.

Every day she had to live with the paradox of what W.E.B. Du Bois called “two-ness,” the ambivalence of people of mixed European and African ancestry. If a mixed-race person is white enough to pass, how does that person deal with the trappings of a racist culture where you’re forced to choose a side?

As if in self-defense or maybe retaliation for my father’s racism, she imbued me with a moral imperative to respect all people regardless of their color. A gifted storyteller, she related stories of New Orleans and the bigotry she witnessed. As a child I listened with rapt attention to the story of the old black woman on Canal Street burdened with packages who didn’t move off the sidewalk for a white man. He shoved her aside like so much trash and called her the n-word.

“That wasn’t right,” my mother told me. “But that’s how it was in New Orleans back then.”

Now I understood the clues concealed in that story. That she was hinting at her hidden self or maybe preparing me to accept the part of her she’d left behind in New Orleans and her reason for doing that.

The mystery, solved

After my mother’s death in 2014 I was freed of my vow. In what can only be called serendipity, I was presented with an opportunity to solve the uncertainly of my racial heritage. PBS’s Genealogy Roadshow was looking for family mysteries related to New Orleans. I appeared on the show in January 2015.

Three days later, my mother’s family found me. My “new” Frederic family welcomed me with generosity and love, neither judging my mother nor rejecting me. At the welcome home party in New Orleans, I met my new uncle, two aunts, and slews of cousins. We were every shade of skin from darkest ebony to whitest white and all the shades in between. Suddenly, I was part of a multiracial family.

Armed with Genealogy Roadshow’s confirmation of my racial heritage and wanting to understand that heritage, I traced the Frederic family back to 18th-century Louisiana. I discovered slave owners, enslaved women, and free people of color. Through the centuries I saw how shifting racial laws had affected my family, boxing them into racial categories that hindered them. My redemptive journey became the basis for my book, White Like Her: My Family’s Story of Race and Racial Passing.

I suspect there are many white Americans are unaware of their own mixed-race heritage. Our country’s hidden history of racial mixing is embedded in many Americans’ DNA whether they know it or not, belying the notion of racial certainty. It’s embedded in my DNA, which is 9 percent African. But although I could check “other” or “multiracial” when asked my race on a form, I still identify as a white woman. At this late point, it would be disingenuous of me to claim any other identity. I’ve enjoyed white privilege my entire life.

I will never forget my mother’s haunted look as she said, “How will I hold my head up with my friends?” I bear no rancor toward her for not telling me of her mixed-race heritage. I feel only sorrow that, even after I knew, she was unable to share with me her feelings about who she really was and the life she had lived. Even so, I find solace and pride in finally knowing the truth of my own heritage and the mixed-race family of which I am a part.

Gail Lukasik is the author of White Like Her: My Family’s Story of Race and Racial Passing, four mystery novels and more. She lives in Illinois with her husband.

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a woman in glasses looking at the camera: Author Gail Lukasik

Author Gail Lukasik

 

 

Aug 15th

Multiracial

By Yasmin S

Multiracial

Multiracial is defined as made up of or relating to people of many races. Many terms exist for people of various multiracial backgrounds. While some of the terms used in the past are considered insulting and offensive, there are many socially acceptable modern terms that multiracial people identify with. These include mixed-race, biracial, multiracial, multiethnic, polyethnic, half, half-and-half, métis, creole, mestizo, mulatto, melungeon, criollo, chindian, dougla, quadroon, zambo, eurasian, hāfu and pardo.
 
 
 
Mixed-Race
ADJECTIVE
  1. denoting or relating to people whose parents or ancestors are from different ethnic backgrounds:
    "mixed-race children" · "a mixed-race neighborhood"
     
 
Forever Happily Mixed Up!
No war, No hate - Just respect, love & peace...much easier and less stressful.
 

History

The American people are mostly multi-ethnic descendants of various culturally distinct immigrant groups, many of which have now developed nations. Some consider themselves multiracial, while acknowledging race as a social construct. Creolization, assimilation and integration have been continuing processes. The Civil Rights Movement and other social movements since the mid-twentieth century worked to achieve social justice and equal enforcement of civil rights under the constitution for all ethnicities. In the 2000s, less than 5% of the population identified as multiracial. In many instances, mixed racial ancestry is so far back in an individual's family history (for instance, before the Civil War or earlier), that it does not affect more recent ethnic and cultural identification.

Interracial relationships, common-law marriages, and marriages occurred since the earliest colonial years, especially before slavery hardened as a racial caste associated with people of African descent in the British colonies. Virginia and other English colonies passed laws in the 17th century that gave children the social status of their mother, according to the principle of partus sequitur ventrem, regardless of the father's race or citizenship. This overturned the principle in English common law by which a man gave his status to his children – this had enabled communities to demand that fathers support their children, whether legitimate or not. The change increased white men's ability to use slave women sexually, as they had no responsibility for the children. As master as well as father of mixed-race children born into slavery, the men could use these people as servants or laborers or sell them as slaves. In some cases, white fathers provided for their multiracial children, paying or arranging for education or apprenticeships and freeing them, particularly during the two decades following the American Revolution. (The practice of providing for the children was more common in French and Spanish colonies, where a class of free people of color developed who became educated and property owners.) Many other white fathers abandoned the mixed-race children and their mothers to slavery.

The researcher Paul Heinegg found that most families of free people of color in colonial times were founded from the unions of white women, whether free or indentured servants, and African men, slave, indentured or free.[7] In the early years, the working-class peoples lived and worked together. Their children were free because of the status of the white women. This was in contrast to the pattern in the post-Revolutionary era, in which most mixed-race children had white fathers and slave mothers.[7]

Anti-miscegenation laws were passed in most states during the 18th, 19th and early 20th centuries, but this did not prevent white slaveholders, their sons, or other powerful white men from taking slave women as concubines and having multiracial children with them. In California and the western US, there were greater numbers of Latino and Asian residents. These were prohibited from official relationships with whites. White legislators passed laws prohibiting marriage between European and Asian Americans until the 1950s.

Early United States history

 
Olaudah Equiano

Interracial relationships have had a long history in North America and the United States, beginning with the intermixing of European explorers and soldiers, who took native women as companions. After European settlement increased, traders and fur trappers often married or had unions with women of native tribes. In the 17th century, faced with a continuing, critical labor shortage, colonists primarily in the Chesapeake Bay Colony, imported Africans as laborers, sometimes as indentured servants and, increasingly, as slaves. African slaves were also imported into New York and other northern ports by the Dutch and later English. Some African slaves were freed by their masters during these early years.

In the colonial years, while conditions were more fluid, white women, indentured servant or free, and African men, servant, slave or free, made unions. Because the women were free, their mixed-race children were born free; they and their descendants formed most of the families of free people of color during the colonial period in Virginia. The scholar Paul Heinegg found that eighty percent of the free people of color in North Carolina in censuses from 1790–1810 could be traced to families free in Virginia in colonial years.[8]

In 1789 Olaudah Equiano, a former slave from Nigeria who was enslaved in North America, published his autobiography. He advocated interracial marriage between whites and blacks.[9] By the late eighteenth century, visitors to the Upper South noted the high proportion of mixed-race slaves, evidence of miscegenation by white men.

In 1790, the first federal population census was taken in the United States. Enumerators were instructed to classify free residents as white or "other." Only the heads of households were identified by name in the federal census until 1850. Native Americans were included among "Other;" in later censuses, they were included as "Free people of color" if they were not living on Indian reservations. Slaves were counted separately from free persons in all the censuses until the Civil War and end of slavery. In later censuses, people of African descent were classified by appearance as mulatto (which recognized visible European ancestry in addition to African) or black.

After the American Revolutionary War, the number and proportion of free people of color increased markedly in the North and the South as slaves were freed. Most northern states abolished slavery, sometimes, like New York, in programs of gradual emancipation that took more than two decades to be completed. The last slaves in New York were not freed until 1827. In connection with the Second Great Awakening, Quaker and Methodist preachers in the South urged slaveholders to free their slaves. Revolutionary ideals led many men to free their slaves, some by deed and others by will, so that from 1782 to 1810, the percentage of free people of color rose from less than one percent to nearly 10 percent of blacks in the South.[10

Aug 14th

The Story Behind the Viral Photo of the Officer and the KKK

By Yasmin S

The Story Behind the Viral Photo of the Officer and the KKK - By:Andrew Katz Time Magazine http://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/the-story-behind-the-viral-photo-of-the-officer-and-the-kkk/ar-AAq5x2N?li=BBmkt5R&ocid=spartandhp

© Jill Mumie An officer patrols in front of a recent KKK rally in Charlottesville, Va. 

An officer patrols in front of a recent KKK rally in Charlottesville, Va.

The officer stands calmly as a group of white supremacists act out behind him. One man’s outstretched right arm signals a Nazi salute. Another wears a red hood. A third rests a Confederate flag on his shoulder.

 

The provocative scene that Saturday afternoon in Charlottesville, captured with an iPhone, was shared with a modest public following but would attract a wide audience. “Confederate flags, Nazi salutes, and Klansmen having their rights protected by a black police officer,” reads a tweet posted on Aug. 12 by Ubadah Sabbagh, a Ph.D. student at Virginia Tech. “This picture hurts.” James P. O’Neill, commissioner of the New York City Police Department, shared the image and commended law enforcement in Charlottesville “for handling today’s events with true professionalism. Much respect.” Tim Hogan, a former member of the Hillary for America communications team, tweeted it, too: “A picture worth a thousand words.” A writer, Yashar Ali, suggested the image be nominated for a Pulitzer Prize. “A black police officer protecting a group of men who wish him harm,” he wrote in a tweet. “Incredible.” He prefaced that remark with a question common during breaking news: “Who took this photo?”

And when was it taken? The picture went viral on Aug. 12, as the Virginia college town was rocked by unrest over the planned “Unite the Right” rally. Tensions that morning devolved had into street clashes, as dozens of white nationalists, neo-Nazis and Klansmen faced off against a fierce contingent of counterprotesters over plans to remove a statue of Confederate Gen. Robert E. Lee from a city park. As intense pictures from the violence made the rounds, this image stood alone. A distraction in what otherwise felt like a moment of chaos.

The image spread further after a speeding car smashed into counterdemonstrators—sending bodies flying, killing one woman and injuring 19 others. But as the retweets entered into the tens of thousands, doubts emerged that this image was from Saturday’s events. In the uncomfortable haze of live breaking news it became the latest in a long line of images to be grabbed and shared online without credit or context. Social networks are minefields for information-gathers. Photographers lose control of their work while those who share it reap the rewards: retweets, likes, followers. Images are separated from their intended meaning, and can even take on a new one.

And so began a hunt for the photographer.

A reverse image search on Google pointed to Reddit, where a thread with the photo was submitted on July 15 under the headline: “Police Officer Nash protects the KKK’s first amendment rights as they protest the removal of two statues commemorating Confederate generals in Charlottesville, VA last weekend.” The entry supported suspicions the image was not from Aug. 12. Among the comments was a link to another thread, submitted four days prior, titled, “This picture was taken at the KKK rally July 8th in Charlottesville, Virginia.” Helpful, but it raised more questions than answers.

The search moved to Facebook, where Frank Somerville, an anchor with KTVU in Oakland, Calif., shared a post on July 13 by Kimberly Payne Hawk that included the picture. She had first seen the image on the Facebook page of a friend. Would she happen to know the photographer?

Reached by Facebook message, she offered a name of a local resident. A few scrolls through the Instagram feed of an account associated with the name and there the picture was, between another protest image and a photograph celebrating a soft drink.

Jill Mumie lives about a block away from Justice Park. On July 8, a scorcher of a Saturday, she ventured out to support the counterprotesters. “I knew I wanted to go and be a part of that,” she tells TIME. “I went by myself and just wanted to be part of the energy.”

Mumie, 42, had recently moved to Charlottesville from New Jersey, where she worked for five years in Philadelphia’s hospitality industry. In college she had studied art and photography and worked as a Canon ESO Tech Support representative. She was only in town for about a week and a half before the rally.

That afternoon, she positioned herself near an area that had been cordoned off “in anticipation of what might unfold.” She purposefully stayed in front of the officer, waiting for what she felt was the right moment that captured the “bizarre” scene that was unfolding.

Once the Loyal White Knights of the Ku Klux Klan arrived, she recalled “a huge surge of people behind me.” And so with her iPhone, Mumie tried a few different shots. In one outtake, a girl stands beside the officer, snapping a picture of the commotion as the officer stares elsewhere. The angle of his chin, the tilt of his head, something felt off. In another outtake, the attention is focused on a man behind the officer who displays a middle finger in Mumie’s direction.

Without much water on such a hot day, Mumie left the area soon after. At one point, the gathering of about 50 Klansmen would be deemed unlawful and authorities would forcefully break up the crowd that was angered, in part, by officers’ escort of the Klansmen back to their vehicles. Hours later, a local outlet, TheDaily Progress, reported that police had arrested 23 people in connection with the protest.

Mumie later posted an image from the scene to her Instagram account (@lil_mooms)—what she calls her “sketchbook.” With a few hundred followers, it began in an eddy, but was pulled into the mainstream. This past weekend, friends alerted her that it was being shared widely. “You have this person being professional and protecting the free speech of Americans and then you have this hate speech behind him,” she says. “I remember looking at it after the fact and thought it really does sum it up.”

For Mumie, the picture is about the show of restraint and resilience. She uses words like “duty” and “honor” and invokes former First Lady Michelle Obama’s message during last year’s Democratic National Convention: “When they go low, we go high.”

Days before the Aug. 12 rally, Mumie dropped off a copy of the photograph, along with her contact information, at the local police department.

Was the officer aware of the icon he’d become?

A school resource officer at Charlottesville High School, Darius Nash, confirmed to TIME on Aug. 14 that it was he in the photograph.

Darius Nash outside Charlottesville High School on Aug. 14, 2017.

 

"I don’t feel like I’m a hero for it,” Nash wrote in an email statement that morning. “I swore to protect my city and that’s what I was there to do. I don’t think it makes me a hero, just doing what I believe in.”

Later in the afternoon, Nash said he appreciated the show of support for law enforcement and said the experience “humbled me a whole lot, just seeing how a picture like that can reveal so much.” At one point, highlighting how much the community has been affected by the violence, Nash said a friend of his wife knew the victim of the car-ramming, Heather Heyer. “So we all felt it.”

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Apr 19th

Divorced couple, new spouses win co-parenting at daughter's soccer game

By Yasmin S

Divorced couple, new spouses win co-parenting at daughter's soccer game.

Written by Brittany Loggins @ Today msn.com

Divorce can be hard on kids, but these parents are determined to show unity for the sake of their daughter.

Maelyn is 4, and she's thrilled to be playing soccer — almost as thrilled as her parents are to be able to support her while doing so. Both sets of parents, that is.

Soccer jersey family© Courtesy of Emilee Player Soccer jersey family

Maelyn's mother, Clara Cazeau, and father, Ricky Player, split in 2013, but they're determined not to let that get in the way of their parenting. In fact, Cazeau had jerseys made to show their daughter that they are all, quite literally, on the same team.

All of the parents were excited to share in the moment.

"Because of us, I will never believe co-parenting can't work," said Emilee Player, Maelyn's step-mom, in a Facebook post that has since been shared 83,000 times. "I know through experience it can work!"

Matching Christmas shirts© Courtesy of Emilee Player Matching Christmas shirts

Cazeau explained that all four parents can't come to every game, but when they do, they make sure to bust out the customized jerseys.

And Maelyn? She loves the jerseys, but mostly because her number is on the back.

"I think she likes that it says her number," Player told TODAY. "She was pretty excited when she saw them."

Cazeau has really gotten into the customized shirts, and has even ordered them for their joint family Christmas celebrations.

Easter Family Church© Courtesy of Emilee Player Easter Family Church

One thing is for sure, Maelyn is one lucky girl to have two sets of parents that are so willing to set aside their own issues with one another.

"You can learn how to put your differences aside and do what's best for your kid," said Player. "At the end of the day your kid is watching you, and we want to teach Maelyn to love other people."

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Apr 8th

Wisconsin Couple Has Three Sets of Twins - All Born on the Same Day! 'There Is Never a Dull Moment'

By Yasmin S

Wisconsin Couple Has Three Sets of Twins - All Born on the Same Day! 'There Is Never a Dull Moment'

By @nweisenseeegan

This article was originally published on People.com

The Kosinski twins© Courtesy Kosinski Family The Kosinski twins

Carrie Kosinski dreamed of being a mother to a large family from the time she was a small child. So when doctors told her and her husband, Craig Kosinski, that they couldn't have children naturally, she was devastated. Then fate intervened.

In July 2013, an acquaintance who was several months pregnant contacted her on Facebook to see if she and her husband wanted to adopt her baby. They agreed - but didn't find out until later she was actually expecting twins. Adalynn and Kenna were born on Feb. 28, 2014.

The following year, the same woman reached out to them to say she could no longer care for her other set of twins - JJ and CeCe - so the couple welcomed them into their family as well. (They were also born on Feb. 28, but in 2013).

Then last year, Carrie gave birth to twins via in vitro fertilization - on Feb. 28.

"There is never a dull moment in my house," she says, laughing.

Clarissa and Karraline Kosinski© Courtesy Kosinski Family Clarissa and Karraline Kosinski

It's such a wildly improbable, statistically nearly impossible thing to happen, they still can't even believe it sometimes, she says.

And none of it was intentional.

"All three sets of twins were [born] by emergency C-section," Carrie, 28, of Yorkville, Wisconsin, tells PEOPLE. "I get that question a lot. 'Did you plan it? It was a C-section. It must have been planned.' No. Mine was at 24 weeks. I did not plan on them being born at 24 weeks."

© Courtesy Kosinski Family

But adopting was always the plan - even before they were told they could not have children naturally, she says.

"We did it backward," says Carrie, who is herself adopted. "We were going to have our own kids first then adopt but apparently God had other plans for us."

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The adoptions of the first two sets of twins aren't final yet - strictly for financial reasons.

"We'd started the process of adopting the [now] 3-year-old twins when the birth mom contacted us about taking the [now] 4-year-old twins," she says. "So we put the adoption of the 3 year olds on hold just in case we were going to be adopting the 4 year olds as well. It's cheaper to do it all together than separate adoptions."

The Kosinski twins© Courtesy Kosinski Family The Kosinski twins

The adoption costs are huge. They live on the salary of her husband, Craig, 43, who is an accountant. The family has fundraising sites on GoFundMe and AdoptTogether - and recently found out they got a $4,000 grant from bestselling novelist Karen Kingsbury's One Chance Foundation,

"We are actually about $2,500 from our goal for the adoption,"she says. "Our goal is $15,000. Altogether it's $18,000, but we wanted to pay some of the costs ourselves."

Getting the adoptions finalized is hugely important to them, she says.

"It would mean so much because there's so many unknowns," she says. "What if they eventually find the birth fathers? They don't know who they are. There all these what ifs. We could not fathom losing them. They're our children. We believe we are meant to have them...To just make them ours would be a huge blessing to us."

The Kosinski family© Courtesy Kosinski Family The Kosinski family

And someday, she says, they wouldn't mind adding to the family.

"Maybe in a few years," she says.

The youngest twins were preemies - each born weighing just 1 pound, 6 ounces - and have some developmental issues, she says.

"So we want to focus on them and get the adoption finalized," she says. "My husband would like another one eventually because right now we have one boy and five girls..so maybe in like a couple of years."

And what if she has twins again?

"Twins would be fun," she says, then jokingly adds, "as long as they are born on February 28."

This article was originally published on People.com

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Apr 7th

Interracial relationships are vital to culture

By Yasmin S

Original Post By: GEANA JAVIER | Evergreen columnist @ The Daily Evergreen

It has been 50 years since the U.S. Supreme Court released a ruling that interracial marriage restrictions were unconstitutional. Since then, interracial relationships have become increasingly accepted.

Due to the growing amount of diversity and mixed-race citizens in America, media outlets should further normalize interracial relationships.

The media as a whole plays a dramatic role in influencing public perceptions, and portraying interracial relationships is crucial to reducing stigmas based on ethnicity.

 
 

However, contemporary American society still has a long way to go in order to accept interracial relationships as normal.

Public outrage erupted when Old Navy released an ad featuring a white male, a black female and a mixed-race child. Twitter users claimed that Old Navy supported “genocide of the white race,” and called the ad “absolutely disgusting,” according to an article from Today Magazine.

It is downright atrocious that some Americans hold such a deep hatred for interracial couples that they felt the need to express such views on social media.

All humans deserve the right to actively consent to, and participate in, relationships with anyone from any ethnic background without racist backlash.

The reality is this is not currently the case.

Yes, in the 21st century, people have told me “why don’t you date your own kind?” or “I like you because you look exotic.”

Why shouldn’t I, or anyone else, be allowed to date outside our ethnicities? There is no logical answer to this question. I refuse to be told that I can only date people who share my ethnic background.

As for the comments fetishizing my “exotic” looks, initiating a relationship based purely on my ethnic physical appearance is not only humiliating, it’s racist. In these instances, I am merely a sex object. Quite often the males who call me “exotic” also try to woo me with statements like “you give me yellow fever,” or “I’ve never dated an Asian girl before,” as if I should feel special for being the first.

I’ve been the target of a constant stream of unsolicited, degrading comments regarding my romantic choices and racial background. These personal experiences lead me to believe that some Americans still don’t see interracial relationships as equal to same-race relationships.

 
 

However, between 2000 and 2010, the number of biracial black and white Americans has more than doubled, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. The same study found that adult citizens with both white and Asian backgrounds has increased by 87 percent.

If the number of multiracial citizens is increasing, then it is likely that romantic relationships between minorities and the white population are also increasing.

Media companies should feel morally obligated to include representations of interracial relationships because doing so would be statistically accurate.

The media can help normalize interracial relationships, because the more the majority of the population sees it, the more people will accept these types of relationships as legitimate and deserving of respect.

Geana Javier is a sophomore economics major from Seattle. She can be contacted at 335-2290 or by opinion@dailyevergreen.com. The opinions expressed in this column are not necessarily those of the staff of The Daily Evergreen or those of The Office of Student Media.

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Apr 5th

2-year-old girl defends choice of black doll to cashier

By Yasmin S

CBS News By Jennifer Earl @ http://www.msn.com/en-us/news/yearinoffbeatgoodnews/2-year-old-girl-defends-choice-of-black-doll-to-cashier/ar-BBzmhbu?li=AAk6ORB&ocid=spartandhp#image=2

 

 

 

Apr 3rd

Waiter's act of kindness toward customer goes viral

By Yasmin S

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For the past 11 years, Joe Thomas has walked into work at IHOP in Springfield, Illinois, with a spring in his step and a smile on his face.

He knows all of his “regulars” by name, and since the 43-year-old waiter doesn’t have any children of his own, he treats any little ones that come into the restaurant like relatives. It’s something customers have come to expect.

“I love the people,” Thomas told CBS News. “I just love my life, and I love the way I am.”

Now the internet is falling in love with Thomas, too.

A photo of the waiter went viral over the weekend after he was spotted feeding a woman with Huntington disease, a genetic disorder that causes the progressive breakdown of nerve cells in the brain. Her husband sat across the table, eating his usual — two eggs over easy, a side of sausage and a buttered pancake with a single egg on top.

Thomas has come to know the couple, who visit the local IHOP at least once a week, very well. The woman’s husband would alway feed her first, allowing his own food to go cold.

Then one day, after delivering their order, Thomas sat down next to the woman, waved her husband away and started cutting up her eggs and feeding her.

“I didn’t really offer. I just started doing it,” Thomas said. “I told the gentleman to ‘Sit down, eat your food. I got her.’”

The man graciously accepted Thomas’ kind offer, and from that day on, that became their new routine.

“I really treat people like I want to be treated,” Thomas said. “If I get to be that age and something happened to me I would want someone to help me out.”

Customer Keshia Dotson was sitting a few tables away when she watched Thomas take a cloth napkin and lightly dab the woman’s mouth after feeding her. She was touched by the waiter’s sweet gesture.

“She was coughing and then would gag really loud almost like she was choking,” Dotson described to CBS News. “The first time she did it almost the entire restaurant went silent and he cracked a joke and reduced the tension. It wasn’t long after that that we noticed him sitting down with her and helping feed her and once she was done get her all cleaned up.”

Dotson was so impressed by Thomas that she posted a picture of him on Facebook, alerting IHOP to the “touching moment.” The photo was “liked” and shared by thousands of people.

Hundreds of people commented on the post, including several who knew Thomas personally.

“This is no big deal for him. He does this every time,” IHOP employee Amanda Williams commented. “He’s an awesome coworker.”

“This man is s great server. He’s waited on my family a few times when we’ve been to IHOP,” customer Melissa Roberts wrote. “This warms my heart to see this. What a kind soul.”

Stephanie Peterson, IHOP’s executive director of communications, told CBS News she’s heard through the franchisee and her team that this is “kind of in his nature.”

“He’s always willing to help regular guests that come in,” Peterson said. “This just happened to be captured.”

Before he started working at IHOP, Thomas said he worked in a rehabilitation center for about a year. His mother died from diabetes and then his dad got prostate cancer, so he was used to caring for others.

“I have a soft heart,” Thomas said. “Everything I do is honestly just natural, besides the way my parents raised me. I don’t think about it. I just do it.”

Thomas hopes after hearing his story others will follow in his footsteps, not because he’s telling them to, but because they want to.

“Remember that movie, ‘Pay It Foward’? That’s what I’m hoping for,” he said.

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